Because I started laughing at one of the illustrations in our French book and then I couldn’t stop.
LOOK AT THE POSE AND FACES
what are they
I tried to illustrate my visionBut it couldn’t quite capture it so I did it again
This illustration is actually one of the better ones in the book
I thought I could make it funnier
but that is wrong
So I turned the page and this is what I saw
WHAT ARE ARMS
no, tell me, what ARE arms?
WHO NEEDS PERSPECTIVE AND ANATOMY I HAVE BREAKFAST
and here we have a happy family CRYING FOR HELP WITH THEIR EYES BEHIND FAKE SMILES
Ok I’m done
"What if you were really old, and really kind and lonely, your whole race dead. What couldn’t you do then? If you were that old, and that kind, and the very last of your kind, you couldn’t just stand there and watch children cry."
- Amy Pond | The Beast Below
There’s a conversation going on about the hurt that goes with defining ace and aro identities in terms of a lack, rather than in terms of a presence. I agree with odannygirl7 that our identities factually are defined by an absence, and that there’s no credible or meaningful way in which we can define them by a presence instead; there is no thing that aces and aros by definition have access to that others don’t. Yes, our communities may approach certain issues in unique and thoughtful ways, but those perspectives are not by definition inaccessible to allos; they’re just more common with us.
However, I see where anagnori is coming from. I think a lot of us struggle with finding ways to define ourselves in positive terms rather than in terms of an absence. It would be nice if when people say we’re “missing out,” we could show them something we have that they don’t, something that redeems that lack. There really is a little bit of pain that goes with not being able to answer that question, and I think it’s valid to acknowledge that and seek ways of healing it.
But I don’t think there is any universal thing that aces and aros have that others don’t, and I don’t actually think there needs to be. I don’t think we should feel compelled to justify an absence of attraction, any more than monosexual people should feel compelled to justify an absence of attraction to most genders.
By definition, ace and aro identities *are* defined by an absence. But an absence is not the same thing as a deficit or a poverty. Sometimes it is just an absence. Maybe instead of working towards filling that space, we should work towards making people see that empty space does not always need to be filled.
True, or that an absence isn’t the same thing as a hole. If you are asexual and/or aromantic, yes, you lack that experience. But you formed whole without it. You don’t have a missing piece. You are a puzzle that doesn’t happen to have a piece/set of pieces that depict the picture most others seem to have. But you’re still complete and have all your pieces. So yes, we don’t have that piece … so what?
The problem people seem to have with defining us without presenting us as “missing something” is that they assume all puzzles must have this piece/set of pieces without realizing that some puzzles lacking that piece were made that way, fully functional. It can be anywhere from amusing to annoying to disturbing to abusive if people who look at our lack of that piece and spend a ridiculous amount of time searching for it under the couch and trying to cram it into our finished set of interlocking pieces, where it would wreck things rather than complete them.
Damn I’m full of extended metaphors today.
Eurgh, looks like I need to clean under my couch.
Hey, what’s that thing down there?
It’s a puzzle piece! Looks like it says something on it…
"Sexual Attraction" Hey! So THAT’S where it was! I’ve been looking for that for years!
Wait, there’s something on the back…
"Property of Cassie" Guess it’s not mine after all. Oh well.
And who’s Cassie, anyway? I don’t know anyone named Cassie.
Guess I’ll just sell this one on Craigslist.
Oh my god. XD
Hey, where did you get that?! That’s mine! I thought I lost it under my bed ages ago, what the hell you sexual attraction thief.
Wait tho, if you’ve got mine, then what’s this?
OH SHIT SHIT ANYA I’M SO SORRY I DON’T KNOW HOW THIS GOT HERE I SWEAR
OH MY GOD IS THAT WHERE IT’S BEEN ALL THIS TIME????
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR GIVING IT BACK
MAN I CAN’T WAIT TO PUT THIS RIGHT BACK WHERE-
WAIT A MINUTE
He is so ugly and annoying.
no, he is fab
NO HAYMITCH IS ONE OF THE BEST CHARACTERS IN THG. THAT MAN WENT THROUGH SO MUCH. AFTER HE WON THE GAMES, THEY KILLED HIS FAMILY. HE HAD NO ONE REALLY UNTIL THESE TWO KIDS CAME AROUND. HE WAS ALWAYS DRUNK BECAUSE HE HAD FUCKING NO ONE. THATS HOW HE GOT RID OF HIS NIGHTMARES AND THE PAIN BY DRINKING. THATS WHY KATNISS GOT DRUNK IN CF WITH HAYMITCH AFTER SHE FOUND SHE WAS GOING BACK INTO THE ARENA. HE STARTED THE WHOLE STAR CROSSED LOVERS THING TO MAKE SURE KATNISS OR PEETA WOULD WIN THE GAMES BECAUSE HE CARED FOR THEM. HAYMITCH LITERALLY WENT THROUGH SO MUCH AND HIS CHARACTER IS SO COMPLEX SO NO HES NOT UGLY OR ANNOYING. HE IS FAB JUST LIKE E-VERDEEN SAID GOODBYE
NOT TO MENTION HE WAS THE WINNER OF THE QUARTER QUELL SO HE HAD TO WATCH TWICE AS MANY PEOPLE DIE IN HIS GAMES NOT TO MENTION ALL THE DISTRICT 12 TRIBUTES THAT COME BEFORE KATNISS AND PEETA SO FUCK YOU
YES and can we all remember that when he says he’s there “for the refreshments” he’s just making light of his situation. He’s actually there because he has no choice, because as the only living Victor of District 12 the Capitol fucking force him to return to the games as mentor year after year. Can you imagine what it’s like watching two kids from your district who are under your protection get butchered every year, and knowing that even if you moved heaven and earth to try and protect them they don’t have the faintest chance of survival against the Careers? No wonder he numbs the pain with alcohol, and pushes everyone (particularly the Tributes) away from him, because HE KNOWS HOW DANGEROUS IT IS TO ALLOW YOURSELF TO CARE ABOUT PEOPLE. His mother, brother and girlfriend were MURDERED by President Snow just because Haymitch had the audacity to use his wits to survive the Quarter Quell. Caring about others has only ever brought him agony and loss. But you know what’s so fucking awesome about Haymitch? When he realises that despite everything, Katniss actually has a chance of doing well in the Games, he cleans up his act and tries his absolute best to help and protect her and Peeta. He grows to care for them, despite how dangerous he knows that to be. Yes he is cynical, and bitter, and self-destructive. Yes, he is an addict. But many people in his position would have probably killed themselves or lost their minds completely, but in the end he finds the courage fight back against the people who stole his life from him. The Capitol may have wounded him beyond all hope of repair but they didn’t break him, not completely. So don’t you ever try to tell me that Haymitch Abernathy is not a strong and brilliant character because I got no time for that shit.